Great couple or not, we can't live in limbo. You've just never seen a house with a picket fence and two children situation with anyone you've been romantically pursuing before. When I focus on his love it makes it easy to forgive my spouse and love myself, take care of myself, and count my blessings. I know I have made mistakes I would go back and undo. It is irresponsible and reckless to assume that unhappiness is the sole result of another person. I would rather help homeless animals, or some worthy charity, than give anything to our children. You mentioned physical abuse in your first post.
But I have gotten to the point where I dont care enough to fix them. If you are unable or unwilling to do that — get a journal and write down every single thing your husband has done to hurt you and how it made you feel. You don't ever feel like you've met someone who completes you or makes you a better person. I asked him again if marriage is something that he wanted, and more specifically, with me. His children told him to blow when they turned 18. By Anonymous, at hmmm let me say. But the last time I asked he was angry and said that if I wanted to go to therapy then I didn't think we were worth saving.
Imagine how lonely you and your partner will be in the future when your parents are gone and there will be no children to come over and visit. Baby's brain would love that maybe not if it's real hard rock or metal. Nowadays to get sex is easy, internet is full of it. My wife gets this question far more than I do, but even when people ask me, it sounds so invasive. After 8 years you had enough to build yourself confidence into asking someone else to marry you. I do think a Christian counselor could help, but it takes dedication and willingness from both of you.
I remember the first time my marriage paradigm shifted when I was introduced to the book. I'm a retired police officer who became a professional sports handicapper, which means I wager on sports for a living. They have a freedom and piece of mind that can never ever be returned to me now that I am a parent. He is aggressive and only brings out the worst in me. For some reason, when I was married I could not do anything right. But when I ask him to work out with me or try a new meal plan he refuses.
When things get to a difficult place like yours, it can help so much to have a professional wade through it all. A good relation is much more important. One of my mentors is a powerhouse Christian Psychologist named Dominic Herbst. Now, it will be another day of silence. Maybe it was my independent nature. You may want him to change about some things that he does. I have learned from being married for only 11 months, that you need to tell someone what your wants and needs are, and just because they aren't able to read your mind, doesn't mean you are not meant for each other, it's all about communication.
Then she gets pregnant and does a complete 180. And only one of those times did he stay with our kid. I could be within months of having enough passive income to travel the world. There is a book called The Rules. You may see your marriage as a lost hope. He also is a good helper around the house and works hard for his family. It is one thing for someone to force and confront another person into revealing honest intentions.
When people marry young, they are faced with many hardships. I hope you don't kill yourself, then again, you'd leave your spouse more miserable with the kids. I want people off my back about this marriage shit too, but I'm not the type of person to cave in just because someone told me to. Honesty and being up front is admirable and respectable. Ewwwww but goodness so many regretful stories. As a couple, your relationship will undergo bumps and hits. Because he has commited his time to strangers.
It is hypocritical to require someone to be accountable and responsible for them self if you are not going to do the same. See here is the thing I had kids because I loved my ex husband and ex fiance. She always sees the negative in situation this is why I dont like telling her anything. We take him out to educational places like parks, playgrounds, museums, frequently. I can't help feeling like we're just partners in this now to deal with what we've done. This is a man that is in his early 30's. My friend, my heart breaks for you.
We are ultimately not made unhappy by our circumstances, rather by the condition of our hearts. I left and went about my footloose and fancy free life. I told myself in my early 20s that I'd never have a kid. When was giving this information considered necessary? My dad I grew up with adopted me when I was 4. People call me an old maid at 36 and warn me that if I don't change my mind I'll die alone, but I don't give a damn. There is always hope, my friend! My husband grew up in a house where the man is the boss and his wife need to be quiet an obedient, ask for nothing yet everything please we need bread, please can you bring some dog food, please i need some…! He does a lot better now with clean up, but he's still stubborn. I feel angry with hollywood and myself.